What’s the confusion?
Well, let me see. Many people seem to think that striving for this world is AMAZING, AWESOME and such a GREAT thing to do.
Want a PhD? Go for it, they say.
What if you have no life in the meantime? Ahhh, they say, no pain, no gain.
Want to become a manager? Yes, aim high, they say.
What if you end up staying at the office late at night and neglecting your family? Well, you know, they say, look at the financial situation these days. You need to support your family and send your kids to good schools.
Want to become the best student? YES, they say.
What if that means giving up all the fun stuff? Listen, they say, that can wait. For now, you need to give whatever you have in order to reach the top.
Want to break Roger Federer’s record of 16 grand slams and become the greatest tennis player ever? Whoa, you are da man, they say.
What if that means that you have to keep traveling around the world to tournaments and have to limit all social activities? Ahhh, they say, you can do all the hard work now and enjoy yourself after retirement.
Want to be great in the sight of Allah and go to Al-Firdaus (the highest level of Paradise)?
Ermm…yeah, you could aim for that, some of them say. [The rest have fainted, you see. They were shocked at your low standards and at how unambitious you are. After all, you want to be a mutawwa / mullah? Yuck.]
What if it means giving up the joys of this life?
WHAT, they scream??? Why are you being so strict with your Islam, huh? Why are you so religious and so rigid? You’re so young! Don’t you want to have any fun???
It’s okay for me to give up my life in order to achieve the worldly ambitious which will not benefit me in the hereafter but it’s not okay to “give up my life” (according to your definition of life anyway) in order to achieve lasting happiness in the best of places?
To all those that think this way, I just have three words for you:
SHAME ON YOU.
Where are the people who encourage others to strive for the hereafter at any cost?And what is stopping us from being of those?
Why do we always stop people from being better slaves of Allah? Are we that infatuated with this life that we’ve lost all reason?
Am I in a lousy mood today, you ask? You’d better believe it.
I’m sick of meeting people who constantly encourage me to be less religious.
My eyes are just waiting for the day when it gets to see just ONE person who finally encourages me to obey Allah at all costs.
Just one. That’s all, I ask.
[Just a note: An anonymous person wrote a comment criticizing something that I said in Part 2. I had no problem with that. All comments are welcome.
However, this individual used MY email address when typing in the comment. (You cannot submit a comment without typing in a valid email address.)
That REALLY annoyed me. I don’t mind being criticized but I hate lies and cowardice, especially considering the fact that this is Ramadan.
Why am I telling you all this? Simple. If you wish to write a comment in the future, then please don’t make the mistake of using my email address, just because you want to remain anonymous. You can either create a new email address for this purpose or else please refrain from commenting. If I see that anybody has used my email address for writing a comment, I’ll delete the comment then and there. I don’t like dealing with liars and cowards.]
Okay, so now that I’ve said what I had to say (I always say what I have to say, don’t I?), let’s continue with our checklist:
18) The Month of Integrity
What integrity is NOT: using the blog owner’s email address to write an anonymous comment.
What integrity IS: using your OWN email address to air your comments. And if you happen to behave in a manner other than that, then you should be willing to apologize. [Yes, this individual really did annoy me. May Allah forgive her.]
In the last 10 days, did our integrity improve? Were we honest in our dealings?
Do you know how Islam spread to places like Indonesia and Malaysia? Through honest Muslim traders. The people of those lands were totally amazed at how honest these individuals were with their business dealings.
I’ll tell you two stories that happened to me:
1) Many years ago, paid parking was introduced in our parking lot. So, in the beginning (before we all got the parking cards), I used to rush down every hour to get the ticket. Sometimes, I would put in AED 5 for two hours. (AED = Arab Emirate Dirhams.)
One day, I didn’t have any change so I went to the light shop under my house to get change for AED 5. There was an old south Indian Hindu man there. I knew him well because he had worked there for years and I had basically grown up in that building. So I asked him for change. He only had AED 4.75 so I gave him the AED 5 bill and took the change.
That was that, right? I mean, who would care about 25 fils? A quarter of a dirham? He did.
He come up to me a few days later and gave me the 25 fils. I was shocked and told him not to worry about it. He insisted that I take it because he couldn’t keep it. Subhan Allah.
I was so sad that this kind of integrity came from a non-Muslim and not a Muslim. We’re usually too ashamed to even return such a small amount in case the other person laughs at us.
[He left for India a few years ago. If I had to choose one person in the entire world that I would want Allah to guide to Islam, it would be him. I ask Allah by His Beautiful Names that He guide this man to Islam for this act that he did. Ameen.] Read more